Asking someone out over text can feel intimidating, but the message itself does not need to be complicated. The goal is to be clear, personal and respectful.
Be clear about your intention
Avoid messages that are so vague that the other person cannot tell whether you are proposing a date or a casual group activity.
Instead of:
We should hang out sometime.
Try:
I have really enjoyed talking with you. Would you like to get coffee with me this Saturday?
Suggest a specific plan
A complete invitation should usually include:
- The activity
- A proposed day
- An approximate time
- A location or general area
Examples for a casual date
- Would you like to get coffee with me after work on Friday?
- I am planning to visit the new café downtown this weekend. Would you like to join me?
- Are you free Saturday evening for dinner?
- Would you like to take a walk and grab something to drink this Sunday?
Examples for a romantic date
- I would really like to take you out. Are you free Friday evening?
- I have enjoyed getting to know you and would love to spend an evening together.
- I know a lovely place and would be very happy if you joined me.
Do not write a very long message
A long explanation can create unnecessary pressure. A few sincere sentences are usually enough.
Make the invitation memorable
Instead of sending an ordinary text, you can create a private digital invitation containing the date, location, personal message and interactive response buttons.
Send the invitation link with a simple message:
I made something for you. Open it when you have a moment 😊